A better way to quality life decisions

Wow wow wow, hold up a minute. Why on earth do so many people spend so much time focusing on insignificant things but make important life decisions on a whim?!

Why aren’t we digging deep, understanding and respecting who we truly are and making decisions from a solid foundation of self-awareness and vision???

This morning I was enjoying a delicious creamy coffee with my husband Mark and before we knew it, our chit chat had turned into an incredibly passionate discussion.

Our frustration was with young adults being expected to choose their life path straight out of high school/college without any critical research or intentional self-reflection. These decisions are generally being made off temporary feelings, what others say, or vague likes and interests. There’s a severe lack of self-awareness and compelling vision included in any of it. No wonder there are so many with abandoned and unutilised Uni degrees.

I understand that a lot of these things come with life experience… but does it have to be that way? My answer? No.

Take my experience for example… Now, I’m not trying to make myself sound like an air head here… but when it really boils down to it I chose to study architecture fresh out of college based on these factors:

  1. I was really into art, majoring in geometric expression. My art teacher, who’s opinion I really respected, suggested architecture so I simply trusted his judgement.

  2. My dad is a builder and I wanted to do building like him because I loved making things. The obstacle was that I had just experienced a serious injury to the discs in my back and physically it wasn’t an option, so designing buildings seemed like the next best choice.

  3. The architecture course was offered in Launceston so I didn’t have to leave home, making it a comfortable option.

  4. At a uni open day I listened to a bunch of architecture students talk about how fun and playful it was in the architecture faculty. I liked fun and playfulness.

Honestly… that’s it. That’s how I chose the direction of my future (please mentally insert a big old face palm right here).

It seems so flippant and ridiculous now, but I didn’t know what I didn’t know at the time. At the time these seemed like perfectly valid reasons to make a huge decision about my future.

Luckily, through trial and error, I intuitively followed a path that lead me to my true purpose – encouraging and empowering others. Then I discovered the ideal avenue for acting doing this - Life Coaching. But this time, before committing myself to a new career path - I sought a lot of wise counsel from people who’s opinions I respected, I engaged a life coach of my own, I sought out professionals in the field to discover what it would truly be like. I did personality tests and strength and weakness analysis to ensure that the unique make up of who I am was going to be maximised in this choice. I can safely say that this time… I was thorough!

As our passionate conversation cooled down (and my barely touched coffee had too) I realised that I’m unquestionably passionate about foundations. So much so that the world stops around me when I’m immersed in thought or discussion about it.

I wish I had the resources to coach every single high school and college student so they can make decisions from a strong position of self-awareness. I also wish I could coach every single adult who feels unfulfilled, lost, unclear, incomplete or insecure about themselves and the way they’re living their life.

I wish these things because I’m passionate about positive change in people’s lives. I’m passionate about deep self-awareness, growth and the power of VISION for a meaningful and fulfilling life.

I’ve found my purpose and I’m always growing and moving towards my vision and that’s exactly what I want to help others to do.

So next time you (or someone close to you) has an important life decision to make – ensure the foundations of self-awareness and vision are solid before moving forward.

Ciao, Steph

p.s. I hope you found this blog helpful on your personal success journey. If you have any questions or comments on the blog or if you want to learn how Personal Success Coaching can help you then I’d love to hear from you!

Author: Steph Edmunds

Certified Professional Life Coach

Steph Edmunds is SESC's incredibly passionate, well experienced Certified Professional Life Coach

based in Launceston, Tasmania - coaching clients across Australia and the world.